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8 questions to determine if your man really makes you happy

by Madam Noire

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Be honest with yourself: after leaving him, do you feel inspired? Do you feel ready to take on the world? Do you feel happy even if you’re sleep deprived? Or do you need a nap and a massage and a day in bed with movies?

We’re bombarded with the idea that we will be happiest in a relationship so we can end up putting up with a lot just to keep one going. But a relationship should energize you, cheer you up and motivate you! If it doesn’t, you’re better off without one. Here are 8 questions to ask yourself to find out if you’d be happier with or without your man.

DO YOU KNOW WHEN HE’S GOING ON A TRIP?

When the day comes for him to go on a trip, had you been anticipating it for weeks? Nervous about it? Planning as much time together before he left? And already having filled up your days while he’s away so you won’t miss him? Or does his departure date sneak up on you?

HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT YOUR BODY WITH HIM?

Do you get anxious if you don’t work out every day? Do you feel guilty after eating dessert? Do you wear lots of loose clothes? Or, do you get excited about cooking and trying new food? Do you love to show off your curves? Do you love to walk around him naked?

WHAT YOUR ANSWER TELLS YOU

If you answered yes to the first set of scenarios, your man enhances your life and you’d much rather have him around than not! But if you forget he’s even going on a trip and it sneaks up on you, then you may not care that much when he’s away.

DO YOU NOTICE HOW MUCH TIME HAS PASSED SINCE HE CALLED?

Does not hearing from him for 8 hours feel like not hearing from him for two days? Do you start to worry something bad has happened to him? Or he’s started to have doubts about the relationship? Or, does he always have to reach out to you, and you realize, “Oops! I hadn’t realized we hadn’t spoken in 10 hours.”

ANSWER TELLS YOU

If you answered yes to the first set of questions, then communicating with your guy makes you feel great! But if you don’t notice 8 hours pass without talking to him, he feels more like a nuisance and burden than a joy and source of energy.

DO YOU FEEL ENERGIZED AFTER SEEING HIM?

Be honest with yourself: after leaving him, do you feel inspired? Do you feel ready to take on the world? Do you feel happy even if you’re sleep deprived? Or do you need a nap and a massage and a day in bed with movies?

WHAT YOUR ANSWER TELLS YOU

If you answered yes to the first set of questions, then your guy boosts your confidence and your love of life! But if you feel drained of energy, he is probably negative, and drags you down.

HAVE YOU BECOME MORE OR LESS AMBITIOUS SINCE BEING WITH HIM?

Since you got together, have you been pursuing your goals more or less?

WHAT YOUR ANSWER TELLS YOU

If you’ve been pursuing your goals more with your man in your life, awesome! He helps you believe in yourself and he makes you excited about life and new experiences. If you have been pursuing them less then he probably doesn’t help you focus, or let you bounce ideas off of him. He probably sucks up all your mental energy.

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