1. Never open with ‘Can I Buy You……’
Getting her to smile works magic for breaking the ice as women love a man who crack them up. Humour sets up a pleasant context and give her the impression that you’re a fun person to be around. Cracking a good-humoured joke can make all the different between picking up and striking out.
by Nikita Mukherjee
We know a lot of you think that buying her a drink is a great way to break the ice, but, we beg to differ. Kindly tear the page out of your playbook. Offering to buy her a drink as a way of introducing yourself immediately puts you under scanner. With more and more date rape drug cases coming to the fore, this is not such a good idea after all. Moreover, you’re also giving the impression that you’re uninteresting and have so little to offer that you’ll use the most used and abused method of approaching a woman. So, do not offer her anything before you’ve exchanged at least a few sentences.
3. Ditch pick-up lines
Getting her to smile works magic for breaking the ice as women love a man who crack them up. Humour sets up a pleasant context and give her the impression that you’re a fun person to be around. Cracking a good-humoured joke can make all the different between picking up and striking out. You can start of by saying ‘Bet I can make you laugh in 5 seconds’, or ‘want to hear a real bad pick-up line.’ These will make things interesting right from the beginning.
5. Make her smile
4. Address her group
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Who says you can’t win her at a bar? A loud noisy environment can actually be a shy and introvert guy’s best bet. How? Because you really don’t have to talk. Catch her eyes, smile or even raise your glass as if to say ‘hello’ from a distance. Distance can give you more confidence and if she’s interested she’ll give you the clue. If she’s not, then you can move on without actually having to compromise on your ego. It’s the safest way.
2. Use non-verbal cues
The less clever the opening line the better- because she’s likely to have heard it all. It also saves you from coming across as Mr. obnoxious-smarty-pants. Instead, open with a question about anything that you see, hear, touch, taste or smell. It will fetch you an instant answer. Also, you want to be judicious at your eye contact with her. Don’t stare at her and scare her simultaneously in the process, you’re not reading her mind. Just maintain eye contact as it suggests confidence. And take it from a woman, we are attracted to confidence!
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Like animals, people love to move in packs and it’s definitely for a reason – there’s safety in numbers. It is for the same reason that women don’t want to be picked out and separated from their group. It will also make her friends feel protective and anti against you. So, the first thing you need to do when approaching a woman is to address her group as a whole. Strike conversation with everyone, then gradually direct more attention to your interest. This move will also help create a good impression of you in her eyes.
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